Where art thou, that love that once was mine?
I feel you still within me
ALIVE like the pounding of my heart
And yet, where are those sensual pleasures and connection I long for?
In the city, one can often feel alone, people bustling to and fro
Where are we really going? Does anyone know?
So many men and so little time, I once heard myself say
To conquer or be conquered I have learned is not the way
There is such lack of meaning in so much of what we do
Superficiality, pretension, competition
Who are we really? Why do we do what we do?
My heart is like a well which runneth over
I have so much to give, so give is what I do, yet my love eludes me, as I long to know him ever-more
Is it so wrong to desire the touch, smell, taste, and feel of my special friend?
I know as you beat within my heart, that one day we will meet again
For you I am ready to receive, to give, to nurture, to caress, to grow with
For you and no one else, my sweet
I live in faith, readiness, and love until we meet again.
“La Vie en Rose” literally translates as “Life in Pink”. Metaphorically, it translates as “looking at life through rose-colored glasses” or it infers an optimistic outlook one has on life. The song “La Vie En Rose” was sung by the legendary French singer Edith Piaf (1915-1963). Throughout Piaf’s short life was much sadness and tragedy, yet the beauty of love was a central theme in much of her music. Her life was later immortalized in the 2007 film of the same name starring actress Marion Cotillard.
Ancient and modern symbolism for the rose representing beauty and love, are often given as gifts on Valentine’s Day and throughout the year, to symbolize ones’ affection for another.
A mind-body-spirit perspective regarding the rose is to remember to “stop and smell the roses” as we work our way up the corporate ladder. Oftentimes we are so transfixed on the destination, or so busy with the minutiae of daily life, that we are not fully present in the present. We forget that it’s the process and journey that molds us into the people we become. Certainly, the destination is worthwhile, but as soon as we achieve something, aren’t we often left wanting more? There are always new literal and figurative mountains to climb, so isn’t it important to enjoy where we are at in the here and now?
“Cultivating your inner rose” is to allow the beauty of the rose to shine from within you. Yes, we have heard the cliché that “beauty is only skin deep,” although ancients describe true beauty as “radiating from within.” It’s a presence, a light, and a way of being in the world that makes one irresistible, no matter their age, gender, or ethnicity.
To cultivate your inner rose, take a few minutes each day to stop, close your eyes, and breathe deeply in inner gratitude, peace, and love. Feel this positive energy, while placing one hand on your heart and the other hand on your solar plexus. Just sit or lay quietly someplace safe for a few minutes, breathing in slowly and deeply through your nose, and out through your mouth.
That’s it! All it takes is a few minutes. If you do this in the morning, this wonderful energy will set a positive tone for the rest of your day. Do this simple exercise for a month straight and observe the positive ripples in your life!
Even if halfway through the day something happens that causes you to feel negative or “off center” (traffic congestion, kid’s screaming, boss yelling), you can always close the door to your car, office, or bathroom cubicle if need be.
Just stop, close your eyes, and breathe deeply in inner gratitude, peace, and love for a few more minutes, someplace safe. Remember, even your overbearing boss or your irritating co-worker has something to teach you.
Once you have observed the positive ripples in your life, and you are ready to “cultivate your inner rose into an inner rose garden,” you could practice mindfully eating your lunch in the park, you could take yoga or Tai Chi classes, learn to meditate, read inspirational books, eat healthier foods, and/or volunteer to help those less fortunate.
Then there is sharing the beauty of the rose with your family, friends, and co-workers. That’s what I am doing now. I’m sharing this beauty with all of you! Sometimes just sitting on a mountain top gives me the greatest joy. You should try it sometime.
Vive la vie en rose!
True lasting happiness is not in having, but of BEING.
It’s a shift in consciousness and perception which happens over time, from spiritual practice and mindful living.
Things, though a fun and often necessary part of life, lose their firm hold they once had as the ultimate goal, “the-end-all-and-be-all.”
“Keeping up with the Jones'” becomes an endless, exhaustive story like a hamster in a wheel, running faster and faster. And for what?
Have you noticed that the more stuff you have, the more stuff owns you, your time, and your energy? One can become a prisoner of stuff, which can weigh one down.
The secret? Focus less on acquiring stuff and more on BEING.
Be fully present in your conversations, commune with nature, be a more compassionate and loving human BEING.
It’s your BE-ING-NESS which attracts—like a magnet—all wealth, health, happiness, and love. You won’t need to run like a hamster to get it. It will be drawn to you.
Just BE and you, too, will see!
Hello! I’d like to tell you a little bit about myself and my inspiration for starting this blog. I grew up in a foster home in Vancouver, Canada and was born to a schizophrenic mother and a father I’ve never known. During my teenage years and early twenties, I often felt lonely and I longed for deep family connection. My unhappiness and loneliness periodically manifested in emotional eating as I attempted to fill my inner void with comforting foods.
At 23 years of age, I met a handsome, young man while backpacking in Europe. Later that year, I moved to Los Angeles, married him and became a U.S. citizen. Shortly after we married, there were inquiries about grandchildren from my in-laws, but I wasn’t ready for that. I had a hole inside of me and I needed to figure out what was missing.
After a life-changing (psilocybin-induced) mystical experience in Joshua Tree, California, I followed my heart and left my husband. I read numerous spiritual and self-help books, I cried a lot as it felt like I had undergone a death, and I was a patient of network chiropractic work and acupuncture to help facilitate my own healing process.
Over the past twenty years, my focus has been on my healing and spiritual growth, as I built a life. In 2003, I moved to Las Vegas, where I bought and furnished my own brand new house, and I worked my way up to six figure corporate jobs in the hospitality industry.
I had accolades, income, and status, but a few years ago I experienced adrenal fatigue and burnout, coupled with a longing to get into work that is more spiritually gratifying. Simultaneously, I felt a longing to connect with a spiritual tribe. Once again my heart (and body) was speaking to me and it was time to make some changes.
I returned to school full-time and reduced work to part-time. In July 2017, I graduated Cum Laude from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas with a BA in psychology. Summer 2017, I started writing a monthly health and wellness blog for the National United States Bartender’s Guild (www.usbg.org). In the Fall of 2017, I begin graduate school as my goal is to become a Doctor of Oriental Medicine (OMD) and open my own health and wellness practice. Here I am, bravely choosing to reinvent my life in my late forties.
I know that everything happens for a reason and that the universe provides experiences and opportunities to help facilitate our growth. However, it’s up to each of us whether or not we choose to listen and act upon our inner stirrings and life’s outer promptings. It is also up to each of us whether we blame the world for our adversities and circumstances, or we become more resilient and strengthened by them.
I’ve noticed my life become more harmonious (with less drama), as I’ve consistently chosen to nurture my soul’s higher purpose. Today, I feel an inner peace and connection as I consciously live from this awareness. Whether you call it God, Source, Brahman or Great Spirit, there is a power that I’m tapping into and it feels wonderful!
I feel inspired to share what I’ve learned through this blog and hopefully, others who read it will learn something and perhaps find some inspiration, solace, and even some healing for themselves. That is my hope, anyway. After all, life is an experiential journey and a process which guides us into deeper levels of BEING, awareness, and love.
(As a disclaimer, I wish to note that this blog’s contents are not meant to be a substitute for diagnosis and treatment by authorized medical professionals.)
Human beings are uniquely complex and multi-dimensional, so it’s important to look at health from a holistic, biopsychosocial perspective, in that our internal and external environments either enhance our health or adversely affect it. Like a key fitting into the right lock, “disease” genes may become expressed under certain prolonged lifestyle and environmental conditions.
Healthy lifestyle choices need to be consciously cultivated on a daily basis until our healthy lifestyle choices become our healthy lifestyle habits. Like a domino effect, healthy lifestyle choices build on each other, just like unhealthy lifestyle choices do. For example, when we start working out and feeling better, we may start eating healthier and we may smoke less, or stop smoking altogether. Whatever your reasons are for choosing to live a healthier life, whether it’s having more energy or lowering your blood pressure, this post contains a general overview of steps to achieving a healthier you!
If you find implementing healthy lifestyle choices difficult at first, add one easier change at a time until it becomes integrated into your life, and then move onto the next change as you build momentum. Weight yourself, take measurements and photos, set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Timely) goals, document your journey in a journal or a vlog, and reward yourself once a goal is attained. Most importantly, don’t give up! You deserve to be your best version of yourself! By the way, let us know how you are progressing, so we can motivate and inspire each other, okay?
- Positive Attitude: Eliminate toxic relationships from your life and focus on cultivating positive relationships. Limit negative social media and television programming. Consciously replace a negative thought with a positive thought. Forgive and “let go” of past hurts. If you need to talk to a therapist to help you with this, please do. Thoughts and words are things so choose them wisely. Watch positivity grow in your life as you nurture it daily!
- Exercise: Keeps us healthy and strong, prevents injury, and stimulates the production of feel good hormones like endorphins. Whether it’s participating in a yoga class, cycling to work, or walking after dinner, exercise keeps our “Qi/Chi” or life force flowing rather than stagnating. Stretching within 15 minutes before physical activity prevents injury, and stretching after physical activity prevents muscle stiffness and soreness. Some resistance and cardiovascular training should be included each week, alternating muscle groups by switching workouts. Remember not to overdo it, as you will run the risk of injury. Meet with a certified trainer who can put you on a fitness regimen that’s right for you! How Often to Workout?
- Nutritional Plan for Optimal Metabolism: Eat mostly fresh fruit and vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and organic foods. Reduce or eliminate refined sugars, refined carbohydrates, hydrogenated oils, trans fats, preservatives, processed foods and chemicals (i.e.: smoking). Learn to read labels and choose foods with fewer ingredients in them that are whole, natural, and have minimal processing. Choose healthier ways of preparing foods like steaming and baking instead of pan-frying or deep-frying. Plan and prepare healthy meals ahead of time, to help keep you on track. Visit a registered dietitian or a nutritionist who can put you on an individualized program. Healthy Eating
- Vitamins & Supplements: Your health care provider can put you on an individualized plan, although Omega 3 fatty acids, probiotics, and a quality multivitamin are good to start with. Be wary of over-supplementation as obtaining nutrients from fresh, minimally prepared food is preferable. Omega 3 Health Benefits
- Water: Studies say to consume 2-3 liters of fluids per day, although ones’ fluid needs will vary, depending on how active you are, where you live, your health, age, etc. Lack of water or other fluids leads to dehydration, which can drain your energy and make you feel fatigued. Beware of extra calories consumed with beverages other than water, as many contain sugar, sodium, and caffeine. Better Beverage Choices
- Adequate Sleep: Many factors affect how much sleep one needs such as age, genetics, and pregnancy, although 7-8 hours is recommended for most adults. Quality of sleep is important for overall health, wellness, and stress management. Lack of sleep increases one’s irritability, risk for injury, obesity, heart disease, and lowers one’s immune system response.
- Balancing Hormones/Managing Stress: Stress has become known as the “Black Plague of the 21st Century.” If not appropriately managed, stress can actually kill you! In today’s world, we also experience the effects of xenoestrogens (chemicals) in our environment, which can wreck havoc on (male and female) hormones. If you don’t feel like yourself, you feel depressed, overwhelmed and fatigued, then see a qualified health care provider for a check up. Adequate sleep, meditation, yoga, exercise, and a healthy diet can also help you manage stress and stress hormones. If possible, adjust your lifestyle and obligations to allow for stress reduction and healing.
- Friendship & Family Contact: Human beings are wired for socialization but remember # 1 and surround yourself with positive people who love and support you. When in the presence of negative folks, send them loving, compassionate vibes or remain pleasantly neutral.
- Meditation/Prayer: This is quiet time, if only for 5-10 minutes upon waking or just before sleep. This daily practice helps you connect to the divine, authentic nature within. It opens the heart chakra/energy center increasing one’s appreciation for life, while cultivating present moment awareness. This can also be a quiet, restful time not only for practicing daily gratitude, but also for creative visualization and purposeful thought.
- Life Long Learning: Increases one’s employability, diversifies skills and knowledge and enhances personal fulfillment. Whether it’s a hobby you’ve always wanted to take up or a college degree that you’ve always wanted to earn. If the desire is inside of you, there is a reason for this, so take the necessary steps and MAKE IT HAPPEN!
- Connect with Nature: In today’s fast-paced world, it has become essential to take a periodic “time out” whether to a yoga retreat, a day at the beach, or for a weekend of camping. Opening up one’s consciousness to the beauty of nature allows for inspiration to flow and for divine connection to ensue. It’s during these restful, re-charging interludes that I may write in my journal about goals and things that I’m grateful for.
- Think Globally, Act Locally: Use one’s life purpose for teaching, serving, and creating a better life for oneself and others. If you are not able to do this in your paid work, you can always volunteer at the local food bank or become a big sister or brother. REMEMBER to do that which inspires you! Know that you are a strand in the web of life and that each strand has an effect on the web. Each and every person can absolutely make a difference, especially when we come together and unite toward a common good!
Disclaimer: The advice in this post is meant to serve as a resource for readers seeking ideas about how they might experience improved health and wellness. Before attempting any of the above suggestions, it is recommended to check-in with a qualified medical professional. The views and/or presentation do not and shall not be considered as a professional advice. Although we endeavor to provide accurate and timely information, there can be no guarantee that such information is accurate as of the date it is received or that it will continue to be accurate in the future.
FINALLY, you are here
Sweet, bless-ed nothingness at last!
Nowhere in particular to be
Nothing in particular to do
All affairs attended to
So at last
I can revel in your sweet fragrance and gentle sounds
So I can simply be
Dear, sweet, nothingness
You are like a mother’s bosom
My how I’ve longed for thee, when long ago I balked at you, with boredom and youthful impatience
Now I rejoice thee dear, sweet, nothingness
My how the tides of life have changed me!
You are a gift dear, sweet, nothingness
Let me revel in you
a little bit
In our materialistic, work-driven North American culture, we often don’t take a restful respite or the vacation time we have earned due to obligations, because we may miss out on an opportunity, or we are fearful of losing our “edge” in the workplace. Please know that connecting to the core of who you are is as essential as breathing for your long-term happiness and self-fulfillment. Positions and titles may come and go, but your inner connection remains and grows as you nurture it.
When you surrender to the realm of nothingness/emptiness, you connect to the realm of infinite possibilities, ideas, intuitions, and inspirations. It is a quiet, mindful place where the self-connects to the SELF, the unmanifest takes shape, and the unknown is revealed. Build your inner connection for a deeper, richer, more meaningful and purposeful way of being. This new way of being, brings clarity and greater self-fulfillment, as you coalesce with the divine.
When life gives you lemons,
why not make some delicious lemonade?
Life is a gift
It is our shifting perception,
which changes everything!
So when life gives you lemons,
make lemonade and
savor in its refreshing, cool, tartness!
Life can get downright challenging. Sometimes life can get so tough that we wonder how we will manage to make it through the day. Next time this happens to you ask yourself, “What can I do to turn this horrible experience into something more tolerable?”
Should you ask for help? Do you need to forgive someone or let go of something? Perhaps you could start a purposeful new project to get your mind off of the pain? Being proactive by transforming a negative experience into a more positive, loving solution, helps lighten and heal your spirit and the spirits of those around you. Actively choose to turn your living nightmare, into a little piece of heaven on earth.
There is a right time and season for everything in our universe.
The wise, intuitive person literally seizes an opportunity as it approaches.
The unwise, unintuitive person could be hit over the head with the same opportunity, at the same right time, and not see for he knows not. This man wonders, “Why does my life suck?” “Why do these things always happen to me?”
For the unwise, unintuitive person, the metaphorical glass of life is perceived as half empty or lacking. Due to subconscious belief patterns, he unknowingly manifests negative experiences, which reinforces his beliefs, pessimism, and subsequent perceptions.
For the wise, intuitive person, the glass is optimistically half full; full of potentiality, full of promise, with gratitude for what is and excitement for what can be. He perceives life as an ever-unfolding adventure, as he welcomes each new day.
Becoming wise and intuitive is beneficial as it opens one’s heart, one’s mind, and ultimately one’s life.
Wisdom is innate or cultivated over time from our experiences. Through awareness, daily gratitude, positivity, participation, loving yourself, loving/serving others as yourself, and listening to that “little voice within” called intuition, we actively work towards gaining more wisdom.
Our perceptions shift and evolve as we do.